When men cry in public

With tears flowing repeatedly, Brett Kavanaugh angrily denied allegations of sexual misconduct as he appeare...

Posted: Sep 28, 2018 12:34 PM
Updated: Sep 28, 2018 12:34 PM

With tears flowing repeatedly, Brett Kavanaugh angrily denied allegations of sexual misconduct as he appeared Thursday before the Senate Judiciary Committee. The airing of the allegations, he insisted, was not just a moment of crisis for him but a "national disgrace," and the controversy had "destroyed" his family.

In a previous generation, in 1972, a display of emotion by presidential candidate Ed Muskie, who appeared to cry as he defended the honor of his wife, Jane, helped end his hopes for higher office. (Later, observers conceded that it might have been melting snow, rather than tears, on Muskie's cheek.)

Brett Kavanaugh

Political Figures - US

Donald Trump

Government and public administration

Government bodies and offices

Government organizations - US


US Congress

US federal government

US Senate

White House

Judgments on Kavanaugh's emotional performance will likely depend on each viewer's perspective, but he demonstrated the wider latitude that men in politics have today to show their emotions. However, were he a woman, he would likely be dismissed as overwrought, even hysterical, which helps explain why the witness who testified before him, Christine Blasey Ford, was far more composed and restrained.

If Republican Senators waffle on support for Kavanaugh's nomination, the most important judgment will be rendered by Donald Trump. Gabriel Sherman of Vanity Fair tweeted, "The crying has unnerved some White House aides, source says. 'People don't know why he is crying.'"

For Trump, who would seemingly rather risk a man keeling over from a heart attack than indulging his feelings, the display was likely an exasperating development. "When I see a man cry I view it as a weakness," Trump once told writer Timothy O'Brien. "I don't like seeing men cry."

Still, the President immediately tweeted his support for Kavanaugh as soon as the hearing ended:

"Judge Kavanaugh showed America exactly why I nominated him. His testimony was powerful, honest, and riveting. Democrats' search and destroy strategy is disgraceful and this process has been a total sham and effort to delay, obstruct, and resist. The Senate must vote!"

As a nominee for the Supreme Court who no doubt believed he would soon be approved by the Senate, Kavanaugh's feelings are easy to understand. He was suddenly made the subject of three separate accusations of sexual misconduct and was on a mission to clear himself. Ford, the first accuser and the only one the Republicans who control the committee will hear, alleged he attacked her when they were teens.

Such an allegation, in addition to the others, would disturb anyone who is accused, but as Kavanaugh let his emotions show, it was easy to imagine Trump growing impatient, if not disgusted.

A man firmly planted in the ethos of the 1950s male, Trump would no more cry in such a setting than admit that he was elected president with the aid of the Russians. He has, himself, faced more than a dozen allegations of sexual misconduct and never once reacted with anything but a dismissive attitude. To see Kavanaugh weep must have galled the man who named him to the court.

Attitudes about masculinity have changed a lot in the decades since Trump's youth. Former Speaker of the House John Boehner was so sentimental that he teared up over almost anything, and Presidents Clinton, Bush, and Obama have shed tears in moments of tragedy or mourning. The difference is that, at least in public, these men did not cry in anger, or because their own feelings were hurt.

President Trump is not part of the Washington crying crowd. He is the man who called Senator Charles Schumer "cryin' Chuck" when he teared up in early 2017. In 2015, Trump called broadcaster Glenn Beck "wacky" and "worse than Boehner" because he got emotional on his show.

Recent decades have seen greater acceptance for open displays of emotion. As one writer at a website devoted to boosting positive images of modern men recently argued, "Real men do cry."

Whether or not the crying went over well at the White House, Kavanaugh has retained the President's support. And if Kavanaugh is backed by the Republican majority in the Senate, he'll be on the Supreme Court.

Article Comments

Mason City
Few Clouds
77° wxIcon
Hi: 78° Lo: 52°
Feels Like: 79°
Albert Lea
Scattered Clouds
72° wxIcon
Hi: 74° Lo: 53°
Feels Like: 72°
Scattered Clouds
77° wxIcon
Hi: 79° Lo: 52°
Feels Like: 79°
Charles City
77° wxIcon
Hi: 76° Lo: 52°
Feels Like: 79°
Few Clouds
73° wxIcon
Hi: 74° Lo: 51°
Feels Like: 73°
Tracking severe storms tonight.
KIMT Radar
KIMT Eye in the sky

Latest Video


Make A Wish Ride in North Iowa


Limb Lab's golf tournament fundraiser


Rochester native and Olympic Trials qualifier teaches nordic skiing at Quarry Hill


Mason City Pride gets underway


Kingsland school district's new tax referendum


CTK: Charles City


CTK: Osage Green Devils


CTK: Grand Meadow


Scooters causing concern in Rochester


Hagedorn tour in Albert Lea

Community Events